The story goes of a man who comes into his North woods cabin from the winter cold. He is shivering and says to the old wood stove, "Give me heat!" To which the stove answers back, "First, give me wood!" Our verse today says, "Without wood the fire goes out." Herein lies an obvious life principle, yet so often people get it backwards. For example, the employee says to his boss, "I'd like a raise." The employer says, "First give me a reason to give you a raise." The student says to the teacher, "I want a better grade than this!" The teacher says, "First give me better answers." The single man says, "I want to marry this wonderful woman I met." The wonderful woman says, "If he was wonderful, I'd gladly marry him." (First be the one to have the one.) The husband says to his wife, "I want more romance in our marriage." She says, "First, give me a reason to feel romantic towards you." The parent says, "I want you to stop whining and throwing temper tantrums. The honest child would say, "First, train and discipline me to do so." The teenager says, "I want more privileges." The parent says, "First, give me more honor and obedience." The guy looks at his pudgy body in the mirror and says, "I want to be in shape." The talking mirror says, "First, give me better food and exercise." The brother says, "I want to be strong spiritually." And you say to him, "Then start getting into a GREAT spiritual workout with us in M3.":) This is known as the "Great Exchange Principle." A lot of people whine over what they don't have, instead of working for what they want. The young man might whine that he is stuck in a low paying job. Instead of whining, he needs to work to develop the knowledge, relational and technical skills to land a better job.
This "great exchange principle" also works well for eliminating or reducing things you don't want. For example, do you want less conflict in your marriage? Then don't add fuel to the fire of a growing conflict. "Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down" 26:20. We could rightly also say, without a cutting comment a quarrel dies down. Without yelling a quarrel dies down. Without giving excuses and being defensive a quarrel dies down. Without staying in the ring (by taking a time out) a quarrel dies down. As fresh charcoal is to burning embers and as wood kindling is to fire, so is a quarrelsome man for kindling strife (expanded translation of 26:21). So don't add fuel to the fire; then the quarrel will die down. Just as a tall man overlooks little people, so a big man overlooks little people's insults. "A prudent man overlooks an insult" 12:16. Is that easy to do? Of course not. "Though the tongue weighs very little, it's very hard to hold." That's why taking a time out is so wise. If I stay in the ring, I am apt to give her a piece of my mind, which I can ill afford to lose. Retreat to advance. For lack of wood a fire dies down.
1a.- So what do you want more or less of in your life? (You are among supportive friends, please share.)
2.- Read Prov.26:17-28 and share one verse or phrase that grabbed your interest along with some of your thoughts regarding it.
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Hey it's Monday, so please remember to go right from the blog to the scoreboard and put up your points for the weekend. Thanks!
We will also be going to the July tab on the scoreboard, since most of this week in July.
Notice: We are now combining the MP3 points in the G column. So not only give yourself the point for blogging in the G column, but now add your MP3 points in that same G column. (Now we truly have a GREAT scoreboard, not a G,MP3,REAT scoreboard:)
10 days ago I wrote the following: "Prayer is so important that we have asked each man when he started with M3 to get at least two prayer partners. Some of you have, others have yet to do so. Go to the Contacts tab at the bottom of our Scoreboard sheet and include the name(s) of your prayer warriors and their email addresses. I will be sending out a prayer warriors monthly newsletter the beginning of July, so please have that completed by then. I'm sure you believe that it's important to have people praying for you in this spiritual battle that we are in, so I'm only asking this for your benefit. (You can thank me later:)" Please have this done by the end of tomorrow.
It was so enjoyable reading Friday about how so many of you have been handing out our Greatest Mini-movies cards. Phil shared the following- "After a Narcotics Anonymous meeting I was outside talking to a guy and I handed him one of our mimimovies cards and told him, 'Yo, check it out, there's some super powerful short videos on there.' Well 2 other people overheard me and they both asked for cards as well." Way to go Phil!
Drum roll please! Here are the points from this past week's scoreboard. As you can see, many of you were U= Unstoppable this past week. And most of you scored 25 points or more. Well done! I'm holding my breath that this week will be the one that everyone is unstoppable and scores 25 points or more. Let's have that underwater breath holding competition:) And congratulations to Team 5 for top scoring! Again, the weekly average scores do not include those of your fire team captains. They are focusing on helping each one of you succeed. Please make sure to return their calls promptly as well. Thanks!
| Fire Team 1 | 0 | 29.28 | Fire Team 4 | 0 | 31.66 | |||||
| Eddie Morales | U | R5 | 56 | George Rabiela | U | R1 | 94 | |||
| Phil Raymond | U | 16 | Rich Guardiola | U | R1 | 48 | ||||
| Alex Dyckman | U | 25 | Dave Heidekruger | U | R1 | 30 | ||||
| Ismael Andrade | U | R2 | 39 | Chuy Cervantes | 17 | |||||
| Luis Ortiz | U | 36 | Fire Team 5 | 0 | 38.8 | |||||
| Gary Remson | R1 | 18 | Jack Rogers | U | R4 | 85 | ||||
| James Schmidt | U | 36 | Andre Vargas | U | 30 | |||||
| William Dyckman | U | 35 | Armando Hernandez | U | 60 | |||||
| Fire Team 2 | 0 | 33.5 | George Doherty | U | R1 | 28 | ||||
| Sam Vargas | U | R3 | 41 | Jose Billegas | U | 18 | ||||
| Oscar Nunez | U | 40 | Roger Vinlasaca | U | R1 | 58 | ||||
| Israel Fuentes | U | R1 | 32 | Fire Team 6 | 0 | 28.8 | ||||
| Flo Juarez | U | 16 | Dave Garratt | U | R? | 86 | ||||
| Lou Ojeda | U | 46 | Horacio De La Torre | U | 55 | |||||
| Fire Team 3 | 0 | 37.4 | Ed Lake | U | 27 | |||||
| Robert Roman | U | R1 | 132 | Dave DeBoer | U | 53 | ||||
| Guillermo Baez | 61 | Mark Estrada | 0 | |||||||
| Vince Diaz | U | R1 | 35 | Rick Barrera | 9 | |||||
| Antonio Palomar | R1 | 22 | ||||||||
| Nic Palhegyi | U | 23 | ||||||||
| Osiris Alday | U | 46 |
1. Before being a part of M3 I always wanted to have a consistent daily time in God's word. Thank you Dave for your leadership and everyone's support because now being in the word daily has become a necessary part of my daily life. Also this has made me much more aware of the importance and benefits of doing so and also how much more there is for me to learn not just from the word but from the godly examples I see in men that are part of M3.
ReplyDeleteMay we all continue to grow in Christ with the help of M3.
2. Prov 26:21 "As charcoal to hot embers and wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome man for kindling strife. "
I can easily see how not holding back when entering a situation where there is conflict can lead to very bad results. So this is something that I have been putting into practice by just taking some time out to analyze the situation and then addressing it later when I have calmed down.
Thanks roger for sharing continue doing so it helps me understand what I need to be doing
DeleteAwesome words of encouragement brother. I also was yearning to stay in the word. i really enjoy consuming the word with my brothers. have a blessed day.
DeleteRoger, I'm with you on M3. Thanks for sharing .
DeleteThanks for the kind words Roger. Udabest!
Delete1. Watch my tongue and think before I speak. I like to make people laugh and try to have a sense of humor, but I don't want my motives and actions to go astray just to please people, especially at the cost of others or friendships. So I need to think before I speak and be intentional with what I say. I want to build up rather than tear down.
ReplyDelete2. Take a second before I blurt anything out to ask a few questions: is what I'm about to say true? Is it helpful?inspiring?necessary?kind?
3. I read today's Proverbs and 18,19 stuck out. I don't want nor should I use "I was just joking" as a defense against saying something that I shouldn't have. It can be dangerous and fatal to my relationships with others.
18Like a maniac shooting
flaming arrows of death
19is one who deceives their neighbor
and says, “I was only joking!”
Thanks Eddie I can see how I can use that line to justify my actions also
DeleteVery good application in points 2 and 3 Eddie. Those are great questions to THINK through a response.
DeleteI can relate brother. I also have the problem of not thinking before I speak. It takes a lot to actually admit that we have a problem. Its a strong step forward brother. God bless
Delete1. I want to be more organized. When I say organized I mean being a man of my word. I tend to schedule things the same time when I already had things scheduled. I need to start writing things down so I won't forget things because I tend to forget things a lot.
ReplyDelete2. though his hatred be covered with deception, his wickedness will be exposed in the assembly. (Proverbs 26:26 ESV) We will all be exposed for what we do. This also shows me to show love and not hatred towards others.
Very good James. I have a great memory, but it's really short at times. Thus, I write things down a lot. Organize or agonize.
DeleteJames, writing thing to remember was always my specialty. Until I started to forget where I wrote it. Keep up the good work .
Delete1- I would like more comprehension when it comes to studying, I was never good for school or studying and I would like to go back to school at some point but taking these automotive tests and failing them knowing that I can perform better hands on really depresses me a lot because I feel like I can never go back to school because I can't study or focus completely or just not right for school. I don't want to feel that way
ReplyDeleteThere are many other things but don't know where to start.
1b- still in search of it. God willing it will come soon
2- Proverbs 26:28
A lying tongue hates those it hurts,and a flattering mouth works ruin. I can see that we can have that worldly danger of the tongue, I find myself thinking about that through out the day and I have to stop and think about what's right and wrong in the lords eyes and it helps to hold that thought and the tongue, I don't like being disrespectful to anyone's ideas and beliefs.
A lot of success in studying for average students like me is learning good study skills. It's not that we are dumb, it's just that we need to understand how the brain learns and give it what it needs. One of those things is lots of review. Cramming does not work. Feel free to call me if I can be of more help here.
DeleteBrother Guillermo, I admire your efforts all the more. School never came easy to me either, I'd much rather learn hands on as well. But as I mentioned to you earlier, I'm confident you'll persevere with God's help you can accomplish your goals.
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DeleteGuillermo, same here . During my school years, I had to work extra hard to maintain good grades. There are a lot of distractions at that age. You may stumble and fall but get back up. Don't give up!
DeleteThanks Dave, Robert and Louie, it helps to know that I can count on you guys and I will try one more time and like Dave said just continued repetitions
DeleteDon't be discouraged, Guillermo. With God's help, you most certainly can achieve this goal! :)
DeleteI was hoping to ask all of you if anyone can help me get driving privileges back, I have not driven in almost 6 years and I would like to at least start working on this consequence that limits a lot of productive things I can do. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you and God bless.
ReplyDeleteUgh! Sounds like you need a good lawyer Guillermo. Were you asking us if we know of one?
DeleteI had a D.U.I I didn't drive 3 years out of the 16 years I was revoked. It will cost you some money for a good lawyer, if you want I will look for his number. My number is 708-898-8091 if you want some hints
DeleteThanks Dave and thanks Florencio I'll give u a shout soon
Delete1a.Less stress caused by procrastination.
ReplyDelete1b. Getting organized getting rid of some of the clutter I have in my house. Exercising on a regular basis. Making a list of things to do.
2Pro.26.17." Like one who grabs a stray dog by the ears is someone who rushes into a quarrel not their own." This is a good one on minding your own business.
Very good points George. A lot of such comes down to making a schedule and then sticking to it. I know, easier said than done, but that is what is necessary.
DeleteI have to admit that procrastination is something I frequently need to work on. Most times it isn't even about putting stuff off, so much as it is about taking too much stuff on to be able to do it all. I need to do a better job of balancing my life. Thank you for sharing this brother George.
Delete1a. Long term goal is to start a business. I have thought about starting a computer repair business. It could be something different. I just want something that I could call my own. I have also thought about an MBA. They go hand in hand.
ReplyDelete1b. Right now I am trying to concentrate on knowing my new job better. I have been studying and shadowing.One of issues with starting a business is time. I know it would be time consuming. I don't want a business to strain the relationships in my life (God, family, ...). An MBA would be feasible
2. Proverbs 26:20-21 (NLT) 20 Fire goes out without wood, and quarrels disappear when gossip stops.
I was terrible at taming my tongue years back. I would not hold back, especially if my wife got on my nerves. I thank God for the patience He has given me.I did do a great job yesterday. I will seek to continue to reconcile. I pray that we don't get entangled in gossip that strains our relationship with others but more importantly God.
Very good Sam! Great ambitions. I think of my MP3 from last Monday- "For waging war you need guidance, and for victory many advisers" Prov.24:6.
DeleteBrother Sam, owing a business is hard work but i know you can do it and be very successful. It's never to late only you will know when you are ready. I will be praying for you bro. With God All is possible.
DeleteGreat goals there Sam. May God bless you in any endeavor you take on.
DeleteYou'll do well , Sam. Keep the Lord as number one priority in your future business.
DeleteThank you for the encouragement brothers.
Delete1. I want more patience and to be less easily angered especially in my home. I do feel I'm accomplishing some good goals I set out this year. Spiritually and in the area of purity I have made great strides this year. But financially and physically I'm dropping the ball. For years my weight and diet has fluctuated and I will budget a month or two then just let my finances go.
ReplyDelete1B. With anger I need more rest, time outs, and like Dave said don't makes excuses and put more wood on fire. This summer I work a lot of hours but I can get on exercise bike and do push ups and sit-ups for at least a half hour every day. Finally I need to set up at least one hour a week to look at bills and finances.
For lack of wood the fire goes out, And where there is no whisperer, contention quiets down. (Proverbs 26:20 NASB)
Some areas in my life I need to add wood to the fire. Other areas need to be less stoked in my life.
Thanks Dave for another pearl of wisdom!
Brother Nic, the constant vigilance tends to wear me down. There's a never ending series of fires that need putting out. May the Lord give you victory in all areas of life issues.
DeleteThanks for the complement at the end there Nic!
DeleteYou did a good job naming what you could do to improve things. Please use the Points for Progress to help you follow through on a schedule you set for yourself. Break it down into small steps.
Brother Nic, the Lord answers prayer. Your openness caught my attention. I will be praying for you
DeleteGood personal insight nick.
DeleteBrother Nic, the constant vigilance tends to wear me down. There's a never ending series of fires that need putting out. May the Lord give you victory in all areas of life issues.
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ReplyDelete1a. I want to be more bold and less concerned about being liked by everyone.
1b. A couple practical steps:
A) decide and write out 1-3 things that are wildly important.
A) say no more to people on things that aren't best.
2. People who shrug off deliberate deceptions, saying, “I didn’t mean it, I was only joking,” Are worse than careless campers who walk away from smoldering campfires. (Proverbs 26:18-19 MSG)
Bueno Dave! I look forward to a walk with you at the end of this week and perhaps discovering what one or more of those wildly important items might be.
DeleteGood for you Dave! Go forward and alway stay on path with the Lord.
Delete1. a. – I want more of Jesus in my live and in my marriage. I want to give more to my friends that need more, I do not mean money but more of Jesus. I have a few friends who need Jesus in their lives. My prayer is for my marriage to be more in Jesus and to help those in any way possible to know Jesus. I need to get out of my comfort zone and reach out more by giving out the great-mini-movies cards and by praying more. I understand that Jesus will do the rest. I need to initiate the race. Amen.
ReplyDelete1. b. – I need to pray more for my family, friends and for guidance. I also need to pray more with my wife and other believers. I need to be more specific and make it a routine to pray and read my bible. Attend men group meetings and other meeting like fusion to strength my marriage and be a serving family.
2. - Proverbs 26: 27 whoever digs a pit will fall into it; if someone rolls a stone, it will roll back on them.
Amen brother. I feel the same way.
DeleteAlright Oscar! It was good seeing you yesterday after church. Now that you've got the cards, I know the Lord will use you to sow good seeds. I'm glad you are reading your Bible everyday with us and Attacking in prayer. Routines are very helpful. So are unstoppable commitments. "No No Scripture and prayer, no sleep." I live by that. It works.
DeleteOscar those are great prayer requests. May God bless you as you reach your friends for Him.
DeleteBrother Oscar, I liked what you said " you have to initiate the race". You make the choice to run with it and pray for God's help.
DeleteI pray that you meet your goals brother. I like that they are Christ centered.
DeleteProverbs26;17 Like one who seizes a dog by the ears is a passer-by who meddles in a quarrel not his own,.....This reminds me to mind my own business......I need less anger so I try to watch what I put in my life. You are what you eat
ReplyDeleteThat right Flo. I have noticed that if i take a breather (a few minutes) you can analyze the entire situation without blowing up. Anger had many negative effects that are associated with it. I will pay for you brother.
DeleteGood verse Flo.
DeleteWhat about using the Points for Progress to help you monitor and reduce your anger?
Good answer Flo. Good Proverb too
Delete1a I want to introduce more people to Christ and raise my sons to be Godly men.
ReplyDelete1b I need to improve my prayer life and obey God in the small promptings that He gives me; then once I am faithful in the small things He may ask me to do greater things. I should also keep up with memorizing scriptures.
2 Verse 23 stood out to me the most.
Like a coating of silver dross on earthenware
are fervent[a] lips with an evil heart.
I feel like it is always important to make sure we have our heart right and that we are not harboring any evil thoughts or desires.
Also a personal goal for the year is to learn conversational Russian. I am going to start listening to the Pimsleur Russian CDs that I have and take lessons twice a week in Kazakhstan.
DeleteBrother Ed, I will be praying for your family. Sometime we don't realize the small things in life. God had great things planned for all of us. With his grace all is possible and you my brother will get there. God bless
DeleteVery practical steps to learning conversational Russian Ed. What about such for your other desires?
DeleteThat is a very good goal, Edward! I really love this phrase of yours "once I am faithful in the small things He may ask me to do greater things."
Delete1a. I ask for patients and time. First i have no time for myself. I have noticed my health decline. I have joined a gym but still do to my working conditions it's hard to make it there. Do to this my patience go thin. I know i must be right before u can help anybody else. I feel rotten when i get home and I'm sleeping while i can be spending time with my family. I try staying up but that puts me on the edge. A very fine line.
ReplyDelete1b. I have hired a personal trainer where we work out once a week. Do to my schedule i have been going to the gym at different hours. I feel great after a good workout. A burst of energy and a stress reliever.
2. Proverbs 26:27 NIV " Whoever digs a pot will fall into it; if someone rolls a stone, it will roll back on them. "
I feel like I'm dogging my own grave, stressing myself out. Everything I do eventually will effect me. I'm my work enemy in so many ways. I thank God for everything he has done in my life to get where I'm at. I need to take a step back and enjoy my time with my family.
Horacio, I'm concerned about your lack of sufficient sleep. Unless you can get the sleep your body needs, you will be short on energy, patience and health. You won't be able to give much to your family either. The best gift you can give them is a rested up Horacio. Guard the hours you need for sleep, even if it means pulling back from watching a movie with your family, etc. Help them see that you need this so they will protect your sleep time.
DeleteBrother Horacio, too much work and not enough rest. I hope you are eating well or the right things. Like Oscar Nunez wrote " you have to initiate the race . Your race right now is a better health. You're in my prayers, brother.
Delete1) Career-wise: I would like to own a business, and become a CPA. In addition, I would also like to eventually become a violin performer or teacher as a possible side job/hobby. Finally, I most certainly do not want to be in massive debt.
ReplyDeleteCharacter-wise: I would like to be more patient and attentive (I've always have had trouble with attention). I would also like to be more disciplined. In addition, I would also like to be more loving toward people as well as being generous with the resources given to me.
2) Steps to take:
1. Reading the Bible more AND putting it into practice
2. Praying more
3. Studying more
4. Doing my best with what I have now
5. Talking to people who are business owners, CPAs, and performing musicians for advice.
6. Keep searching and applying for scholarships.
3) Here are the verses I chose to use:
Proverbs 26:17 "Like one who grabs a stray dog by the ears is someone who rushes into a quarrel not their own."
Proverbs 26:18-19 "Like a maniac shooting flaming arrows of death is one who deceives their neighbor and says, “I was only joking!”"
These are very good verses about self-control warning us about destructive bad habits such as rude joking and rushing into arguments.
Those are good desires Alex. How could you better quantify one or more of them so that you could measure it? I'll have to write on this subject of goal setting soon.
DeleteYou can do all those things with the Lord Alex! Very good!
Delete1) I want to be able to teach others and help them through struggle. that means i have to help myself and learn to grow stronger as a man of God, as a business owner and as a student of others teachings. I want to find all peace through the lord and then myself.
ReplyDelete2) Whoever hates disguises himself with his lips
and harbors deceit in his heart;
when he speaks graciously, believe him not,
for there are seven abominations in his heart;
(Proverbs 26:24-25 ESV)
I wish i had the ability to read someones heart and not hear the words that come out of their mouth. I like this verse because we have to learn to love those that we know lie to us and that hurt us. it is so important to stay true to who you are and live through truth that comes from your heart.
Alright Andre. Glad you are taking steps to grow stronger by moving forward in M3.
DeleteAmen Andre those are great goals you have set for yourself.
Delete1a
ReplyDeleteWhat I would declare more of is peace and being an active ambassador and agent of it.
1b
In order to get there I need to exemplify Christ always in a growing way. Not the type of person that will let falsehoods stand nor tearing other people down that do pr do not know Christ. Also being about peace for my family and coworkers.
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Verse 26:18-19 made the most sense considering the above. Let us not resemble an identity that we do not have or play with the hearts of others. Instead solely declare truth in Christ with love.
You and I have only spoke a few times. You have a good heart. It show the way you share Jesus.
DeleteMay you proclaim it brother and live it out just the way you are.
Delete1 a/b spiritually I was weak. I would go to church. Every now and then I would attend a small study group and read my Bible. I figured that I was a good person. This should be good enough. But something kept yearning inside me. I needed to do more for my Lord. I would pray and ask God to help me rebuild the fire for God. The fuel I needed was M3 . A workout it is. In the evening I can't rest till I'm done. I search the Scriptures. I pray and have all the support from a band of Brothers.
ReplyDelete2. Just as fuel feeds a fire, so gossip feeds trouble .
Trouble will continue till a troublemaker stops his gossip and lies.
Great Words my brother. Great that you have a desire to serve God more
DeleteYahoo Louie! So glad that God is using M3 like wood that is stoking a fire in you! The word and fellowship are great kindling for God to light a fire in us.
Delete1a) I would like less stress and not to be so quick tempered
ReplyDelete1b) I can resolve both of these by not worrying so much about things I have no control over.
2) Though their speech is charming, do not believe them, for seven abominations fill their hearts. (Proverbs 26:25 NIV)
Hey my brother am with you on that one. I got your back in prayer. God Bless you. Less stress more Joy
DeleteI can identify with you to Ricardo and I responded in the same way as you. I prayed and coped with the stress for a long time until it began to effect me physically. God answered my prayer by eventually removing me from that stressful environment.
DeleteI been there brother. Stressed and living with anxiety. Just gotta take it on in prayer and get around people who are going to encourage you more. Hope this group is being that encouragement to you.
DeleteWant a practical step to take to reduce worry? Wear a rubber band around your wrist and pop it every time you catch yourself starting to worry. Then place it in God's hands with prayer and thanksgiving. Phil. 4:6.
DeleteBrother Ricardo, I was also there. Just as Vince said "after much prayer , God removed me from that stressful environment". I wanted to keep the doors open on my 30 year old construction business . One time when praying , I felt "I am answering your prayer. Let go". I did let go. The doors to this business closed . But my life was at peace. I still work in construction supervision, but for someone else. Sure there is stress. But the Lord thought me to trust in Him . When you can't solve your situation you have to ask "Lord I leave it in your hands", and let go.
Delete1a- I would like to have a more closer relationship with my children and my wife and God
ReplyDelete1b- > I speak positive things to my kids and wife
> Spend time with them instead of playing Xbox
> Read Gods word more and pray
> Make time to take my wife out to her favorite restaurant more often.
2- Proverbs 26:28New Living Translation (NLT)
28 A lying tongue hates its victims,
and flattering words cause ruin.
This verse speaks so strong about the tongue. I've notice the bible talks lot about the tongue. Its shows the importance of it.
Brother Vince, my pray for you and your family. God bless you!
DeleteThose are excellent desires to want Vince. And they impact those who are closest to you in the best ways. Go for it brother. It will be worthy of your best efforts.
Deletegreat desire.
DeleteGood desires Vince! Go to work on them.
Delete1) I want to loose weight.
ReplyDelete2) One of the obstacles that I need to avoid is the munching on all the pastries, cookies chips, flavored popcorn etc that my boss brings in to work nearly every day to share with his team members. He loves sharing this stuff with us and hey it's free but all very fattening. It's placed in a prominent place in our office. I'm resolved to abstain from it when I am fasting. But then I dig in and make up for it when the fasting is over. Other things I can do is to cut down on the amount of servings from my wife's great cooking. Also drinking more water throughout the day. Also having a piece of fruit instead of a sweet something. I ride my bike or walk to and from work most days. But adding a few minutes of exercises in the evening– at least stretching exercises will only help.
3) Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.
I think this proverbs captures part of what we are able to do in M3. Through the sharing our experiences (good & bad), and the many encouragements and sometimes our admonishments – we men are sharpening each other spiritually to become better tools for our Great Master's work and mission. Blessed and sharp is that man that has many good straight irons to sharpen against.
Good Dave, practical ideas. Why not resolve to abstain from the goodies 4 days a week?
DeleteI think you'd find using the Points for Progress very empowering as well.
1A- Besides obviously wanting to be the best possibly I can be in my walk with Christ. One of my goal as shallow as it may seem is I want to be super fit. Low body fat, muscle and cut. I know what it requires, I feel I'm very knowledgeable of fitness and nutrition but I honestly lack discipline.
ReplyDelete1B- I know that I need to go back to preparing my meals in advanced and stop making excuses why I can't make it to the gym when I don't feel like going.
2- Proverbs 26:17
Like one who grabs a stray dog by the ears is someone who rushes into a quarrel not their own.
Mmm. I pray you practice "discipline" and get those results you seek in.
DeleteAlso hope for the best for you on Wednesday!!
How about creating a schedule for the days you want to go to the gym and then using the Points for Progress to help you?
Delete1. A) I know it's a long shot but it's something I strive for that is more patience in getting things done especially when it's not on my time but the time of others.
ReplyDelete1. B) The only way I'm learning to be patient on other people time is first through my wife. Sometimes the only time I can learn is when I learn to take a seat on the passenger side instead of the passenger. Fyi I know gonna need it since my wife is due to give labor in another month or so. And that is going to be a whirlwind for us.
http://bible.com/111/pro.26.20.niv Without wood a fire goes out; (20.a)
oh how it's hard when conflict arises in marriage and I'm a person that wants and needs to fix it right there and then. Oh I need alot help on this one.
See if you can figure out a way to use Points for Progress to help you here Ismael. Call me if need help.
DeleteMaybe every task that is not mine, put points on it?..
Delete1a) Arguments with my wife that lead to distance.
ReplyDelete1b) Seek to validate her,
2) 26:17 Holman Christian Standard Bible
A person who is passing by and meddles in a quarrel that's not his is like one who grabs a dog by the ears.
We must beware the dangers we place ourselves in when we place ourselves in matters that we are neither directly involved in or invited into. The way we approach the situation I believe is also of concern knowing that the reaction has much to do with the proactive first action.
Well said on that verse
DeleteYes Antonio, and what about using Points for Progress to help lessen the arguments and promote more validating?
Delete1a. I want less stress in my life, as a good Christian we should allow ourselves to be focussed on the Lord and not let worldly things get in our way.
ReplyDelete1b. Steps include: I hired someone to help run the businesses, having meetings with employees to delegate more authority and educate them on better decision making, selling off properties to relieve financial tension, realize I cant help everyone -- I must focus on pleasing the Lord only, and spending more time with the Lord and his word.
2. " Without wood a fire goes out, without a gossip a quarrel dies down." Proverbs 26:20
Gossip causes so much non productive loss of energy and focus, if not just the gossip but also those listening. We need to be positive and encouraging to all and support one another
Excellent, practical steps Jack! Very good talking with you earlier.
DeleteVery well said, Jack!
DeleteI really like that you said ,we should be more focused on Jesus rather than worldly things. Amen brother.
Delete1a: The one thing I want more of in my life would have to be peace in my house hold. The biggest problem we are dealing with right now is coming from an outsider.
ReplyDelete1b: I know I can bring peace if I just learn to walk away from a confrontation. Its hard for me to do, growing up I was always taught not to back down. I know now that its not a sign of weakness if I do walk away (I was told walking away made me look weak). Now I understand that its a very strong thing to do in a heat confrontation. I thank the lord for given me that strength, although I still need to work at it.
2: Proverbs 26:25
Though their speech is charming, do not believe them, for seven abominations fill their hearts.
Jose, they told you wrong. If walking away is a sign of weakness, then why is it so hard to do? It's so much easier for us to retaliate. Plus, walking away is wise. You seeking to win, not lose. Yo can never win someone over staying and arguing with them. Great things you've brought up here. Use the Points for Progress to really help you also.
Delete1. What do I want more of in my life? TIME. At one time, I was going to school three nights a week, working full time and attending a part-time police academy every other weekend from 0730-1630. I did that for 9 months. When the academy was over, I continued to attend college for another year and a half until I completed my degree. The odd thing is, I feel like I am just as busy but just with other things. So, time…I need more of it.
ReplyDelete2. Although I will never get more of it, I can be more efficient with it and appreciate it when I have it. My time is never mine—completely. For those of you that have kids, you know what I mean. However, I definitely enjoy sharing it with my family more than a laptop and some schoolbooks.
3. All very good Proverbs. They remind of one that we lived by in the Middle East; “The tighter the hug, the deeper the knife.” We often met with elders of villages in Afghanistan only to learn that they are or ‘were’ once Taliban fighters. They were often converts that would choose to be on our side for support and aid them in their efforts of betrayal against their former constituents. By partnering with the United States, they used our power to capitalize on the intelligence they possess and benefit from it. It was a deadly game that they played. It was a risk that they and we often took. So, with it came our own proverb because at any moment, the very same way that they betrayed their own, they would do the same to us.
A recent war movie set in Afghanistan made it appear that one they showed hospitality to, they would not betray. Hollywood, huh?
DeleteTime. Yes, if you could only bottle and sell it, I'd buy a lifetime supply.
Glad despite a chaotic day you fought through and joined us. Way to go tough guy!
1.a – At work I need to be more proactive, there are things I need to do that I put off until the last minute then I end up stressed out.
ReplyDelete1.b – They are usually things that I don’t like doing. I think I’ll try blocking off time to work on them first thing in the morning. Maybe getting them out of the way early in the day won’t make them so bad.
2 – Proverbs 26:17 Like one who grabs a stray dog by the ears is someone who rushes into a quarrel not their own. If you stick your nose into other people’s arguments without being invited it may bite you in the end.
Good stuff brother George!
DeleteI like that idea George! I have to try knocking out the less enjoyable things or harder things early instead of putting them off. :)
DeleteAny way you can swap any of the things you don't like doing with someone else?
DeleteIf not, knocking it off first before allowing yourself something enjoyable is a good motivational strategy.
1a. I would like more money.
ReplyDelete1b, I must learn and perfect better skills and eventually start my own business.
2.Proverbs 26:20 Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down.
What kind of company?
Delete1a) I want many more things in my life: Reading/Studying the word, Intentional Prayer Time, Mentoring someone, but even pursuits such as exercise, learning new skills/bettering myself, and time with my wife. Somethings I would not like to keep are my selfish tendencies, or being to quick to judge.
ReplyDelete1b) For the spiritual areas, I fee like there could be so much more accomplished if I filled my downtime with some of those things. So many times I have thought about it, but in my laziness, won't pick up the Word and just read. I have to get to a better place there. Also, I feel a lot of the other things would get accomplished with a proper schedule and better time management in place.
For things to get rid of, I would need to really apply many of the principals that God gave us, to look on others in love, and to trust God, when I feel I am not emotionally met or treated right when I say I "deserve".
2) my chosen verse is:
Proverbs 26:20 "Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down."
Conviction time. I know for a fact (especially by my family...) that I am very long-winded in my discussions or arguments in the past. Being wordy isn't a healthy place to be:
Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut. (Proverbs 10:19 NLT)
It is best to follow Proverbs 26:20 and not throw fuel in the fire. It would immensely help in dealing with friends, family, work, and wife. God's ways don't come back void :)
Good desires Will. Some of the things you listed simply need to be put in your schedule.
DeleteWe will talk more about this in a week.
1a. I wish I had more motivation to work out and take better care of my body/health
ReplyDelete1b. Things I can do: Since I eat out multiple times every day of my life, start eating salads more, or preparing my own meals: walk 3 miles a day: get up early and go to the gym ( Ugh!): drink more water and eliminate soda: hire a personal trainer
2. Prov 26:28 says "A lying tongue hates those it hurts, and a flattering mouth works ruin." -- The liar masterfully conceals his lies by using false flattery, so people should be careful not to be fooled by him! Eventually, the liar gets found out and exposed in his web of lies.
Those are good action steps Israel. Is there enough desire to put some or all of them into action?
DeleteTry focusing on fueling the desire to take better care of your body. For lack of wood the fire of desire goes out.
ReplyDelete1a.- Difficult to address this question because their are shortcomings I have which I need improvements on. One I need to seriously improve on is to say no. Sometimes instead of saying no I have a tendency of giving no answer and prolonging a situation that should have been determined immediately. At times I already know the answer is no, that I can't or will not be able to do a request and yet I do not say no. This creates a lot of uncertainty and unnecessary anxiety.
1b.- This can and does at times bring upon me a state of insanity. I don't have the solution on how I can stop this. I need to be more honest and truthful and begin to say no when I have to and not suppress my feelings.
2.- verse 27 " Whoever digs a pit will fall into it; if someone rolls a stone, it will roll back on them."
Perhaps if you would the view saying No as the most helpful thing you could do for the other person you would find it easier.
DeleteI'm guessing you are reluctant to say No because you don't want to displease the other person. But it may be very beneficial to them to learn more responsibility and maturity by not always giving in to their requests.
I want more time and less on my plate. These past months have really seen me spread thin. Today was one of those days when a melt down was necessary. I'm still working full-time. I have a two hour commute through traffic each day. I get home burned out and take an hour to eat and spend time with my wife before its off to do homework for my classes. I almost missed posting to the blog today because I need to be up in about 4 hours, but I couldn't bring myself to sleep without posting. Only God knows how long I can keep this up, and I don't want to sound like I'm whining...that isn't manly. Physically, mentally, and emotionally, I'm running on fumes.
ReplyDeleteI honestly don't know what else I can do to milk more time out of each day. I literally have no down time. Every waking minute is booked. I can only pray that God see me through it. I trust He would not give me a heavier load than I can bear. I just need to keep my feet moving under me and my eyes fixed on the Lord. He will provide a way if I keep searching and praying for a way,
Provebs 26:27 "Whoever digs a pit will fall into it; if someone rolls a stone, it will roll back on them." This verse reminds me of the old saying, "Don't dig your own grave," Whenever my wife catches me saying something foolish, she'll jokingly remind me to put down the shovel or remove my foot from my mouth. Trouble comes to us far lass often than we go looking for it, even unconsciously. If we do not practice prudence and mind what comes out of our mouth or mind our actions, we will certainly find ourselves digging a pit for ourselves. Hold fast and tight to the hand of the Lord. Let His name and His Word be ever on your tongue that you may speak life onto the world and not foolishness. Put down the shovel and pick up your cross.
Brother Osiris, I'm sorry to hear that you're overloaded. For years I would value my days on how productive I'd been. I guess it gave me a sense of satisfaction but much like you I was on overdrive and quickly heading towards a nervous breakdown. God commanded us to practice the Sabbath. Though in today's Christian culture we don't call it such but God knows we need a day to rest, disconnect and reboot. I'm not going to presume to know what that would look like or how you'd go about it but God does. Pray on it and then give yourself permission to follow through with it.
Delete"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." Matthew 11:28
P.S. I'm on vacation from work, so please forgive me if I don't provide as much encouragement or replies on the blog.
Ugh! Let's talk. I'll leave you a text and perhaps you can call me when you are commuting.
DeleteHello Osiris, I know exactly how you feel, because in the real estate world, if you are not careful, you (Me personally) can do everything and that is very stressful and time consuming. Is it possible for you to hire an assistant?? or delegate items/chores away to others?? And above all, please take one day's worth of rest :)
DeleteBrother Osiris,
DeleteSend me an email or Skype me at EdwardLake2001
I had that same problem for many years. I think as a fellow teacher I can give you some advice on how I learned to come to a healthy work to life balance.
It's awesome to see you guys reaching out to Osiris. Brother, I pray that you take some things off your plate. My wife takes the summers off. She gets to spend time with me and the kids.
Delete1a. I long for more peace and less stress.
ReplyDelete1b. By carefully and selectively choosing who and what to allow in my life.
2. Proverbs 26:24-25 "Enemies disguise themselves with their lips, but in their hearts they harbor deceit.Though their speech is charming, do not believe them, for seven abominations fill their hearts."
I've learned that not everyone has your best interest at heart! Through Biblical principles and God's help, distinguishing between those who do and those who don't.
Thanks for calling me yesterday Robert. Glad you've got some time off. But you are still the encourager! Bless you!
DeleteGlad you are on vacation. Enjoy it brother. They don't come to often.
Delete1. I need less sugar more real food. I've been addicted to sugar over the last year and it seems like it has taken a tool im my body. Not only have I gained weight, it makes me feel sluggish.
ReplyDelete1b. I will give up sugar. Ill contnue to eat fruits which contain natural sugars but no more cookies, donuts, cakes. I'm starting Monday and the wife is helping me.
2.Proverbs 17:27 Whoever digs a pit will fall into it; if someone rolls a stone, it will roll back on them.
If you do wrong or make some kind of mistake, don't dig yourself deeper into making the same wrong or mistake again. Learn from it.